In the age of connectivity, the rules of social manners have either gotten more complex or have been thrown out all together. In social situations these days, you are often flooded with phone calls, texts, emails, updates from Twitter, Facebook, or other various other social media feeds. It may seem like common sense to turn off your cell phone or perhaps silence it in social settings, but some people don’t realize that they aren’t giving you their full attention when they say the alert from their phone will “only take a second.” Here are a few examples of connectivity faux pas and tips to avoid making them.
Phones at the Dinner Table – Just as you would not turn your back to someone you are talking with, texting or answering your phone at the table is not very polite.
Tips to Avoid this:
- Excuse yourself from the table if you need to take an urgent call.
- If you know you will be distracted and curious if your phone alerts you of a text, take a preventive step and turn it off.
- For dinners lasting longer than an hour, you could suggest the table take a “cell phone break” for those who need or want to check their emails or messages.
Loud Phone Calls in Public Places – Talking on the phone in public forces those around to become a part your discussion. We have all been the victim of this and many of us have committed this faux pas.
Tips to Avoid this:
- Silence your phone and do not answer it
- If you need to answer the call, step away to a secluded area to take it and tell the caller that their call is important and you will call them back in x amount of minutes.
- If you must take the phone call and you are waiting in line, ask the person behind you to hold your spot and quickly go take your call.
Becoming Overly Dependent on Digital Communication – When email is the easiest people can connect with you, you may become dependent on your email at all times. This can lead to becoming disconnected in face-to-face social situations, as you will feel the need to check your internet enabled device anytime it alerts you to an incoming message.
Tips to Avoid this:
- Make the most of face-to-face communications.
- Make your phone to be the best way to get a hold of you over email or texting.
- Resist the urge to respond to email immediately, wait to check it after you leave your social engagement.
The etiquette rules in the age of connectivity are fluid. Ultimately it’s up to us to realize when we are invading another person’s space with our conversation or are making our companions feel overlooked. If you can think of other obtrusive or annoying social faux pas that occur because of digital communication, we would love to hear about them!
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